Two guys wanted to cross a mountain. One of them was afraid about his ability whether he can cross the mountain or not while the other one crossed it and achieved his goal . So which one is you ?
The word Confidence means "with faith" . Faith about what you think or you're doing is the right thing ! It is about having faith in you decisions . When you enter a room filled with people and you are wearing a T-shirt which you know everybody hates but you still don't care about what are they thinking, that is confidence . When you have failed many times but focusing on your goal, you keep trying, that is confidence. Self - confidence is about how much you believe in yourself . It is about who you are . Now Many of us have lack of self-confidence . When we succeed without a taste of failure we get a boost in confidence & in ego . but its temporary. Cause next time when we will face failure while doing something .we will eventually get effected by it & we will start questioning about our abilities ! There is no single person who haven't face failure in their live. yes! nobody is perfect but everybody has something passionate in themselves. Do what you are good at ! Do what you like to do . Find your abilities .If you don't know what your abilities are than may be it is the best chance to find it ! Join a cooking class ,or start going for singing lesson's . Start finding in what you are good at . There is a motivational story i want to share with all of you ,story that motivates me. There is a women in U.K . She once committed suicide . Her life was diagnosed with clinical depression. She was so poor that she could not afford to support herself and her daughter. She was jobless with a dependent child.One day while she was in a train trip ,the idea of a young boy attending the school of wizardry came fully formed into her mind .5 years later from that train journey she finished writing main script of her first book. The book was submitted to twelve publishing houses all of which rejected the main script . Well! She is none other than R . J Rowling, the creator of the harry potter series. She is now the twelfth richest women in U.k . On that hard time when she was getting rejected she could have thought her story was worthless ,she could have gave up ! but She stoop up every time with double faith that one day she will succeed ! and she did Succeed ! Don't be afraid of failure. Don't miss an opportunity because of the chances of failure ! Of course you don't wanna spend your life thinking "what if" all the time. take the chances , You have to believe in yourself, may be you will fail now ,but if you keep trying you will succeed one day. Failure makes you stronger and better . One thing you will notice in your life that when you are passionate about something and doing great in it . some people will hate you . And you know this as well as i do " haters gonna hate" ! It is not even worth your attention . Sometimes you have to break the rules to do what you want , It sounds bitter but you have to be disrespectful sometimes for being more confident . You can not say yes All the time. If you want to be a people pleasure than go ahead and do whatever others want you to do .Live a life like a puppet. But if you want to live life in your way than stop giving a f* ck about what others think. Start being 100% of yourself. I know 'be Yourself"' is a very much used word now a days but what i mean about being yourself is being 100% of yourself and don't ever apologize for it to anybody . This means whatever your hobbies are ,Whatever your passions are ,Whatever jokes that you find funny don't be afraid to express these things to anyone. If some people don't like you for who you are than they can go far and die anyway . You will find a whole lot of people who will love you for who you are . A wise man once said what you think about yourself is much more important than what people think about you. so Stand up and Walk with confidence. Rock it as you own it .
Now here is some tips about how can you rebuilt your confidence :
- Think positive : fill your mind with positive thinking. always see the bright side of a situation. take a deep breath and remind yourself that life is a short journey and you got to make a best of it . there is nothing wrong to remind yourself about how worthy and awesome you are . And you have to live a room to improve yourself . Try to improve yourself everyday . Change for the better.
- focus on the positive : let go of thoughts that doesn't make you strong. we all are made perfectly imperfect . Some likes to sing ,some wants to paint and some are good at getting good grades . accept your flaws and focus what you are good at . Well "you don not have to be great to start but you have to start to be great - zig zogler "
- Have a buddy : share your insecurities to some one you love , Do as the disney song says "Let it go" find someone you can trust , someone whom you can share your thoughts, your feelings ,your insecurities with ,it feels good to been it out ,just to get it out of your chest.
- Listen to people : In fact look them in the eyes ,smile at them and listen intently to determine what you can learn from them. learning from people and knowing people allow you to emulate the confident attributes to others.
- Set goals : its a great idea to keep a goal booked every time something enters your mind that you'ld like to achieve. remember no goal is to small to write it in your book .there is no greater joy in life that to realize a goal and nothing builds confidence faster. Small goals are as beneficial to your confidence as realizing the big ones .
- Be your own hero : Write down all the attributes that you admire in others. humor, integrity,honesty, whatever the case write it down. the more you write the attributes of others the more you'll begun to seethe type of person you want to become. Be prepared to enjoy the immense benefits of being your own hero - it feels great.
- Get into the flow : keep track of what motivates you. Stay near to those things .do what ever motivates you . keep that motivational level up and see the miracles happen almost as if a magic.
- Be yourself & don't give a f*ck : being yourself is the best thing you can do for yourself . You can have interactions with everybody in your life and have each of them like you as an acquaintance or you can be polarizing be 100% of yourself and have some people dislike you and have some people absolutely loves you . The choices is yours.
- Get started : don't expect changes right away. have patience in knowing that it takes time to be that person you wish to be. there is a old saying that the joy is in the journey . display your confidence for everyone to see.
